Everyone and every experience comes into your life comes through your invitation. You are not at the mercy of outside forces and circumstances. We live in a universe of vibration and through your thoughts and emotions you draw to yourself events, people and circumstances. It is all an inside job which is why forgiveness is not about the other person; it is about you.
Most people do not want to accept that they create their own reality. Instead they would prefer to believe that lousy experiences and people are random happenings. It has nothing to do with your thinking. Yet somewhere at some time, you offered the thought and as the old saying says, “careful what you ask for because it has a way of coming back to you.”